Ok, the story... A coworker e-mailed me a link to an ad on craigslist, ok didn't think anything of it. When I went to CL to look at the ad, if was for another coworker's wife asking to have an "encounter" with another female. My jaw dropped to my feet, I just saw the woman at the last FRG meeting and have to work with the husband everyday! WTH? Is that what is hot now? I kept looking trough some ads (hey, I'm curious) and I found 3 other ads of couples I know asking for all kind of kinky stuff with strangers...I was really didgusted because I know some of these people, and most importatly, they used "army wife" or "army couple" looking for this and that...just nasty! What is going on in this town? Is people that nasty and that bored? I'm not making a general statement here but damn! Any normal, decent people? I wonders what goes through those people's minds when they post such ads? What about if they have kids and they see it? Family members? Friends? Church brothers and sisters? Isn't there anything sacred anymore? Respect? Morals? Ethics?... 

i agree with you maryjane that is very nasty and i wonder the same thing what goes thru their minds. thats awful 

if thats whats hot these days...im so glad im out of it lmao...*shudders* ewww lol respond back saying...does ur hubby know about this? lmao the sad thing is is that these days holy matrimony just flew out of the window along with respect, loyalty and morality. im proud to say im part of the few who do still hold those morals and beliefs close... 

I agree, marriage is not what it used to be for sure. It seems like to some it is a piece of paper, like they forgot the vows they took to get that piece of paper. 

I think maybe you ladies should look up the term Bigotry. Just because you dont like or understand a Alterative Lifestlye doesnt make it gross or wrong it just makes it not for you. 

GG, I am not saying it is gross. I am a believer in the saying "to each his own" I do however think that it is wrong to see other people while you are married behind your spouses back. That is called cheating, and while it could also be considered "Alternative Lifestyle" I just think that once you get married you committed yourself to that person. If someone is not married and wants to sleep with men, and women and get dominated, tied up, or whatever that is their business and I do not hold that against people. If you are married and both of you are ok with having other people sleep with each other that is fine too. Personally I wouldn't, but each couple has their own way of maintaining a happy marriage. One of my very good friends and her husband have a friend that they have threesomes with. It has actually helped their sex life. Since it is another man, the husband now has insecurites he never had before, but that is for them to work out. Anyway, my point is there is a huge difference between "alternative lifestyle" and cheating. I believe cheating is wrong, like I said a lot of people these days seem to forget the vows they took to get that piece of paper. 

Also, the only other thing that is a "problem" is you never know who you will meet on craigslist. Many people these days are quick to hook up with strangers and don't think twice about the consequences that could happen. 

in my OPINION it is gross because ur right that "alternative" lifestyle isn't me and wrong especially if u are MARRIED and cheating. Dont be so quick to put words in other peoples mouths and like smiley said...u really don't know who u are talking to behind that monitor whether its a personals ad, ebay or even on bookoo. 

Victora1 lol you are a bigot. You stuck your own foot in your own mouth. I hate to say it smiley this thread was started not because she was married but because she has alternative lifestyle. So sitting here telling me about cheating really wasnt the point I was getting at. 

oh and smiley personal ads on craiglist are kinda like driving blindfolded.... you might be fine for alittle while but eventually you will hit (catch) somthing I do agree it is very freakin silly 

GG, You seem too belligerent and quick and eager to start arguments the wrong way. I know well the meaning of the term and I will have you know that I also know the meaning of “monogamy” and people being unable to comply with it; that’s what I have a problem with. I don’t have any problems with gays or lesbians; I have friends that are both and they are very nice and decent people. What you call an ‘alternative lifestyle’ I call sick and deviant. Am I being prejudice? Most likely. Is it belief bias? Perhaps. Will I change my opining regarding the subject? Definitely not. Why? Because it’s disgusting and it cannot be healthy for a couple. Take the example Smiley gave, that couple had threesomes I bet to try to spice up their marriage and look what ended happening with the husband; it’s just unnatural for a human being to be “ok” with sharing their partner with another person. We’re possessive creatures, especially when it comes to sex, and especially men. Women, men, couples always want to try new things and what not, but wanting to dress up your husband in women clothes’ and have him gangbanged, or watch another men have sex with your wife is just sick. It’s ok to want to try new things, sometimes people gets bored with the routine and all that, try whatever you want, your life, but keep it away from the public eye. Have a speck of decency and keep it to yourself and behind closes doors. Save your kids the trauma and your friends the shock to see you making the victory “V” on CL. The other thing that bother me about some of the ads( I read a few and I got sick to my stomach) is that many people introduce themselves as “bored army wife” “army couple” “army guy”…What the hell? They don’t realize or care about the bad name it gives all of us military wives/soldiers. Because of people like that is that you hear so much bias against army wives and I hate that! But whatever, it's just my "bigot" opinion. 

Just thought I would like to interject and say,"these days?" This kind of "alternative lifestyle" has been in the books for a long long time. Nothing new to me. Not that I am into that, but it really has been around. 

GG, I understand what the post was about, however my point is that when you go and do something like that without your partner knowing it is cheating. My whole point in my first response was that I don't see anything wrong with people who are into all that, I do see something wrong with a spouse doing that behind his/her partners back. That is cheating,and that is what I disagree with. The reason I came back and clarified what I was saying is because I will not have anyone assume I am a bigot when I am not. I don't care too much, because I don't know anyone on here, however I will make it clear as to what I was saying. I sat and told you about cheating, not because it wasn't your point, but because it was mine in my initial response. Hope that made sense. MJ- I agree 100% with the last paragraph of your last post. Looking all over craigslist, here and in other military towns "military wives" are always being bashed. They are forever being called tramps, sluts, whores, ect. and it has become that the image of a military wife has been disgraced. Not all military wives cheat, and do outlandish things, some do, but a lot don't yet we all get branded the same thanks to the ones that do. It is insane that with the horrible perspective people have on military wives that they would still put it out there on web sites advertising that they are Army Wives looking for sex, bored in marriage, lonely and hubby deployed. It's so hard to know that because of those women we all end up stereotyped and are torn apart on many websites. I don't understand why they have to advertise "MILITARY WIFE" here, looking for...... I mean what is wrong with just putting "Lonely woman" or something. 

MJ dont put bigot in quotes you are no better than a racist. Yes this does upset me alot because each to there own. This is no better then knocking a white woman for loving a black man. HATE IS HATE no matter what the form 

mmmmk if u say so...from one extreme to another as usual 

Wow girl, you took it too far there. Maybe you have your head to far up your @ss to listen to what's being said. How does racism compare to what's being discussed here? No one mention race as being a factor in the whole discussion because it would not matter. The point here is the immorality going around and some people doing it so publicly. Also, why are you getting so upset about? I wasn't talking about you, but seems as though the shoe fit you so whatever. Hate? Who said anythig about hate? Read my post once again and you'll notice that I said I hated when people doing their nasty deeds presented themselves as army this and army that, yes I hate that because it gives us all a bad name. If you're going to let this discussion bother you so much maybe you shouldn't be here because the topic itself is not for the weakminded. On and hun, I'm hispanic, a dark skinned one at that so I've experienced racism and this is nothing like it. 

ROFLMMFAO GG looking for drama. Apparently "the off a little bit" people weren't much entertainment for ya. 

I know huh...but she's just talking out of her behind without really making any valuable contribution to the discussion. Oh well, there is always one... 

She did that in one of my discussions and found my "crack" stash apparently. LOL 

This type is action is called "Swinging" and believe it or not, there is alot of it going on in Lawton america. Civ and military alike. This town is very well known fo swinging. 

Lawton is VERY hugely into the Alternative or Swingers lifestyle. There are a few clubs in town that they supposedly hang out at to meet up. I've heard alot of them hookup on a site called AFF.com, which I've heard that a lot of locals are on.