that is NOT located in Lawton? Do you expect them to meet you in Lawton? Would you drive to their place of residence? Im curious. I would like to see some replies before I say what I do as a seller and as a buyer. Please I would like to keep this thread clean and friendly.. =) 

I have sold and bought from people outside of Lawton. I usually meet them somewhere in Lawton. I have met a lady in Chickasha. She lives in OKC. But thats where I go to school, so it was no big deal. I dont think I would drive out of town just for a sale. SOME people on here are not dependable enough for all that. But It is your choice on what you would do. 

It really depends on how bad you want or need something, same with if someone sees something you have they want. I bought a table from a lady in Altus, had to pick it up from her house because even though she had a truck, they were capable of moving and driving and such, they didnt want to meet half way or even a small portion of the way. I even offered to cover some of the gas cost. But she didnt want to leave her house I suppose. So my hubby packed up and drove almost an hour to get it. I wanted it that bad. But on the plus side, I got it for $50 less than what she was wanting. She was a very nice lady from what my husband said, they even helped load it in his truck, which I didnt expect at all. 

I honestly feel that if u post on a lawton ft sill site u have to be willing to bring the item or atleast meet them
I dont think if u post on an out of town location unless u post that u will not meet someone on ur post then u should atleast meet halfway cause if I had to drive to altus and back that would put the item $60+ (my SUV chuggs gas)so the item would have to be really worth it for me to go out of town 

She posted it in lawton, and left her location blank, gave me her address and I couldnt find it in lawton, she then told me she was in altus. My husband had to take his 88 chevy. I mean, the gas wasnt too bad to have to use but it chuggs gas too. It would be nice if more people would say if they can or cant meet. 

ok here are my thoughts, I wanted a item from a lady who resides in another town so I asked if this person would meet me in Lawton because I do not reside in Lawton either. I have dealt with this person before, who was wishy washy if you will. Tells you one day and then emails and changes that. Then gives another day stating "maybe--" I can not go off this. I have never dealt with anybody so untrusting. The one item I did get it was a hassle in other words to just get to the point of meeting them. Not worth the irritation. I gave up and decided I wasnt going to play this game again. So I kindly emailed and stated nevermind I found the item elsewhere to which I got a reply about how they werent going to make their full asking price because coming to Lawton was out of the way. What bugs me is this person works in Lawton, told me so and yet told me this. If I were to drive to where they lived from where I live who do you think the one out on gas $ would be? I might as well buy the item online for its full price by the time I did that, if that makes sense.

When I was listing items I did not expect buyers to come to where I live because like you all said I was posting on a Lawton/Ft Sill site. I do come to Lawton so it isnt a big deal for me to bring items along and meet buyers.

I honestly have been turned off from buying or selling here on SYS. A lot of people I come across are just not right. I have watched people like the one who did the above mentioned to me constantly make up new email accts in order to get free months on the site which is not right if myself and everybody else has been paying all along. Sorry I have strayed from topic but you get my point hopefully. 

It really boils down to how bad you want the item. If you're not willing to put forth an effort, then don't email on the item. Know how many ppl who have free items that live out of town and some RETARD asks to have it delivered. Why would someone waste their time, effort, money delivering a FREE item?? Alot of people don't post things expecting to get rich, but more of a decluttering tool. Why deliver an item when the trash is right outside their house? 

i actually quit selling on here and just took a truck load of stuff to goodwill cause im not in to the wishy washy and mess it makes to pull stuf out pic it and then save it to sell its easier sometimes to just pull it out and get rid of it 

i am so ticked because i just wrote like a novel's worth and my "puter" shut down out of no where......grrrrr (will try again below) 

k this will be shortened and lots of weird-you-probably-wont-understand typing, sorry for typos and for no capitals, punctuation where they should be....

i live quite aways from lawton. 1 hr + to be exact. my outlook is if its a lawton/ft sill site then yes as a buyer or seller you should be willing to go there. i hate it from a sellers stand point because i have the same ole same ole story everyone else has.....NO SHOWS!!! but imagine that after you've drove over an hr and had spend that gas money (and usually also the mc'd's trip it usually costs me to bribe my kiddos).

i don't like to say where i am from because that scares people off. example: there was a lady that was selling a cabinet i really liked. i even offered her an extra 10 if she'd hold it for 2 days (because i know how "holds" can sometimes turn out, so i wanted to show i was serious) ya-da ya-da, we got to talking about when we'd meet and where. when i told her how long it would take me to get there, suddenly there was no response. i was on standby the whole freaking time (excuse my insanity) and kept calling her and emailing and nothing. finally i got stern in my email and she answered right back with an "i'm sorry it's been sold". ok so that was fine and all, that didn't compare to the table story i posted a while back, where i'd actually paid someone to let me use their pick up and then went gassed it up, drove to lawton and then right as i was coming in to lawton the girl texts me and said the table was gone.......sorry got off the subject. what ticked me off was the next day i emailed her from my friends acct, asking if she still has the cabinet. lady answered me back and in nutshell told me "yes!, and i'm in dire need of the money so would take less if you are interested, email soon i have had this posted for so long" ok now what would you say to that. did i miss something? so i no longer say i live planets away. but i will tell you this i am a loyal business person, if i say i am coming i will be there unless lightning struck me on the way (Lord forbid) i wish we could have like ratings the way they do on ebay as buyers/sellers that way those of us that have been good on either side buyer or seller could have so many stars now. i have alot of buyers that could vouch for me that i am dependable.

and i will not lie, i hate having to drive all that way to make a buck, but i gotta admit its fun. just sucks (excuse my language) when its something like speakers or a huge table that i have to haul, and sure enough the first time around it's a no show... so my opinion, that lady shouldve said hey by the way i live in altus will that be a problem, then you could've decided from there. i've had people from altus that wont even meet me in lawton, and i'm like ok now, we're in the same boat now, lawton is a ways for both, but why should I drive that extra time???? they just flat out say no, you must come to my house, then its like whoever it was that said that, depends on how bad you want it. i've also bought from another girl in altus, she is real nice, has met me in lawton everytime. 

wow thats crazy but completely understand where ur coming from
the same has happened to me about some one saying yes no answer then no then yes again by that time im say thanks but no thanks

i love the ones u set up a time for them to text u the address for u to pick it up then they dont then they try to bash u for no show when they never gave their address even after 10+ emails and text 

The ad never said anything about coming to their location for pick up. I want the item but if they are wishy washy in a email why drive all that way to only knock on a door when nobodys home... That's why I simply emailed and said nevermind.

I sell to ppl and set up a mutual place in the middle to meet. I figure since I do not live in town that meeting IN TOWN would be the least I could do. ya know?

I even went to CL to sell because no matter what I had on here cheap as can be I still get ridiculous offers form ppl and on CL no problem at all I sold all my stuff I listed on SYS for a long while in a week and not low ball ofered on either! 

Yes, I do know about the meeting IN TOWN thing, totally agree. I hope I don't offend anyone by saying this, and those of you that are not able to come out from home for various reasons, exclude yourself from this please, but.....I feel that way about having to go on base. I have to go through the usual of showing my id, getting flagged to drive over to get registered, and then I usually get lost on base, because I am not familiar with it. I don't usually go on base unless it's to the thrift store or of course to pick something up that I've bought from someone on base. And, again, like bologna said before, just depends on how bad I want it. Otherwise, I have had people meet me right outside of base like at the Suzy's parking lot or the Sonic.

Agree on the Craigs thing too, seems like less hassle there, but you don't see me avoiding sys do you???? So I'll shut my trap and quit my complainin'!!!

; ) 

I know it may sound mean but after this last week I've begun to wonder why we can't start a post saying ok this person was a no show this person had me come to their house only to not be home....I mean really wouldn't we be able to help one another by having said list go on like this? I'm sure it'll tick some people off but dang I swear this week alone I've had 10-15 no shows! Sorry....just thought I'd share my thought even if it's off subject a little lol. 

ShayBaby, no your not being mean, but I will tell you ahead of time, be careful. This is the other long story I was talking about (in previous postings). I did this back about 2 yrs ago when i got on sys. There were alot of no shows (and I'm sure you've read how I am kind enough to drive all that way to sell an item), so I took it upon myself to make the "black list". Anyone was welcome to email me about their no-shows with email, #s, names, etc, as well as the no-showers themselves in their defense. I would keep track of this and then if someone wanted the list, they would request and I'd email. I'd do the upkeeping of it, etc. Well, long story short, I ticked someone off by doing this. He/She emailed me telling me off, cursing at me, etc. At that time I had pics of my kiddos and myself posted, and she went as far as I guess what you would call "stalking" because she named out a day and time when she/he followed me around in Big Lots. They were specific on what I was wearing, my kids, etc. Anyways, that person threatened me and said if I didn't pull my stupid little list they would cause harm to my family. That scared me, anytime it involves my children, you have my undivided attention. So I STOPPED completely. I removed all my info, etc. Sad, I know over something so stupid, but yet, what we all know is no one's fault but the people who create their own reputation. I know there has been a person on here who is real open about her being a no-show, and that is cool, she said she's had her reasons, and never once got ugly about it, but when it comes to threats, thats a different story, stupidity at its best if you will......anyways thought I'd share and let you know your not the only one who feels this way, that feeling has been mutual for over a yr now with me..... good luck. 

Speaking of no shows. I decided to post some items again and this lady emailed about one and her email wouldnt work, so I posted a ad with her email telling her ot contact me via phone or send me her #.. So next day I call her and she and I set up a time to meet. I go to our meeting place and of course she is a no show! Im gld I had other stuff to do in Lawton because that was a total waste! Whats worse is I talked to her on the phone! Even made her a deal for a few of my items! It took everything in me to not blow up or try to call and ask her what happened. I moved on reposted the item and hopng to sell it to buyer this evening or tomorrow. 

Oh and here is the odd part.. I attempted to email her back originally but it came back undeliverable right so in the return email it said such and such email address is not a valid yahoo account? So I have to wonder do these people just put in fake emails to reply? Or what? Totally wrong to play with ppl this way.

PLUS, I did a reverse look up on her phone # and wouldnt you know she lived a few streets down from where we were meeting! So it wasnt like she had far to go ya know? 

i've been scammed by the same person using different emails...it was a male..and another time i also had a rose petal cottage playhouse i was selling and the buyer agreed to pick up at my house at a certain time...sooo after an hour went by i sent a text and they responded by..."oh we're out eating...are u mad?" that deserved no response. so i reposted and they contacted me again form a different acct trying to lowball me on the price...so i emailed saying weren't u the ones who wanted it the first time and ended up being a no show? needless to say, i never heard back lol. so i got fed up with the whole process and just gave everything away...but i have had some great couteous buyers and they are th eones who truely make it worthwhile... 

wow tish i would have called the cops that would have been the time to do it 

@tish, I would LOVE to be the keeper of the black list. It would be incredibly hard for someone to follow me or my family. 

I would've like to of thought the same (Madison's Mommy.....)but guess not. The weird thing is that I am very observant of things like that. I am that weirdo that takes my boys (yes boys) in the womans' restroom with me because I KNOW there are weirdos watching when one isn't. I get alot of weird looks, and comments like you wouldn't imagine, but I don't care, I don't answer back unless someone is overly rude. My kids hate it, but oh well. Until their old enough, then that will stop. Anyways, got off the subject I know, I can't believe I NEVER caught on. I remember that day, really I do, but I don't remember anyone in particular that I would've kept running into, etc., or any "eyes" on me for that matter. But apparently they did, because like I said they were specific on what we wore that day......eerie. Sweets, would've loved to, but you know how all this computer drama/threats/she said/I said stuff is.... I am just more careful about posting where I am from, when I'll be in town, etc. You can tell I don't tweet. : ) 

So another question, What do you do about that one buyer that can never seem to meet for pick up? Ive tried 3 times! I realize this person lives on post but I dont live in Lawton either. Do you keep waiting or go on to next person inquiring? 

go to the next if they dont show esp if u r meeting somewhere unless u dont have another buyer then work with them but if it comes down u need to decide do i want to keep wasting gas by trying to meet ppl or jsut say hey is there any way i can bring it to u , or say hey sorry u have stood me up a couple of times and i jsut dont want to waste my time 

Amy, did i get a microwave from you? Assuming you are the one, you made it perfect. A certain time at a certain place. You were selling, I was buying, I was glad I got to meet, but typically if I am buying I expect to do the traveling. It jsut happened to work out that I got to meet this person in town(they lived out of town and i live on post, but htey were in town for school so we met). It si really not that hard to make it somewhere on time. I dont think anyways. If they keep not coming, I would definitely move on. Someone else will buy it eventually, or jsut make them come to you when you will be home. 

@ Sharon, No Im sorry Ive never had a microwave for sale. I emailed her back and said I wouldnt be making 2 trips to Lawton but would have to see when the next time would be that id come to Lawton. 

I was meeting a lady on the west side of town and this person actually told me they live on post and dont really go that way often, ha and yet I drive a ways to town and then have to go to where ever we meet. 

that is rediculous, I think as a buyer, I should not make or expect anyone to go out of their way. Everyone is different, but you do what you can to accomodate people and they still are not happy. I would jsut give her a time and place and if she wont be there, then you know she does not really want it too bad. I mean yo dont offer to meet at midnight lol but within reason!! people are jsut getting greedy and rediculous these days. I understand money is tight like the best of us, but I dont expect something for nothing and I certainly dont expect people to cater to me.